Suggestions for Faculty/Staff after the Loss of a Student
SHAC staff are available to consult with on any of these steps. We have found it can be helpful to be involved with the initial debriefing time and are available to assist with any other follow up as needed.
Give yourself time to reflect.
Remember that you too have feelings and thoughts about what has occurred, and these thoughts and feelings should be taken seriously, not only for yourself, but also for the sake of the students you may be trying to work with. Some find it helpful to write or connect with others about their feelings and thoughts. As PSU employees, we have access to free and confidential employee assistance services through Canopy ((503) 639-3009)
Acquaint yourself with resources you can provide students.
These resources may include SHAC (503-725-2800), Dean of Student Life/PSU CARES (503-725-4422), Multnomah Crisis Line (503-988-4888) or other available resources within your own department.
Make accommodations as needed, for yourself and for students.
Many who are directly affected by the death may need temporary accommodations in their workload, in their living arrangements, in their own self expectations. It is normal for people not to be able to function at their full capacity when trying to deal with an emotional situation. This is a time to be flexible.
Respect each person’s way of dealing with the loss.
Some will be more vocal or expressive than others with their feelings and thoughts. Grief is not a disease, but it does take time to recover. Everyone is affected differently and reacts differently.
Make contact with those who appear to be responding in unhealthy ways.
(e.g., isolating themselves too much, using alcohol excessively, throwing themselves into academics or busy work in ways not characteristic of them, etc.).
Come back to the feelings as a group at a later time.
It is important to acknowledge the adjustments people have made. Just because everything seems to be back to normal does not mean that everyone has finished having feelings about the loss.